A woman in late 20s, studying overseas who came for therapy sometime last year (2015) "Where did I go wrong? What did I do that drove him away? He said he loved me, then why did he leave me? Even after almost two years of my break up I just couldn’t accept the fact that he had left me. I was not able to move on. I tried various things to get on with my life. But nothing helped. How could I forget him after all I thought he was love of my life? But if he truly was love
Perspective from a young woman Everyone of us come across certain problems in life. Be it schools, colleges etc. Friends and peers might come our way which ultimately leads to distortions. I encountered a similar problem. With certain glitches relating to my friends, my entire focus moved away from my studies and a lot of energy in terms of thinking was let into these small issues with friends click to read more. Eventually, this thinking took the shape of anger and frustration. I felt like running away from some friends only because I was not able to deal with them.
……OF LOVE & MARRIAGES I am totally not surprised at the number of clients who come to me complaining about their marriage & spouse. Many times they see their spouses as their biggest problems – from not feeling loved to emotional or physical abuse to complaining inlaws etc etc – the spectrum of complains is very wide. And it is the same irrespective of whether the marriage was a love marriage or arranged marriage. Just like Gary Chapman in his book ‘5 Love Languages’ says – all that ‘in love’ experience ends after first 2 yrs – and both types
NO MISTAKES IN LIFE…. While Chetan Bhagat writes a book about the 3 mistakes of his life – I choose to write and believe there are no mistakes in life…only lessons and experiences! It may sound very bashful, egoistic and like a justification for everything I have done ‘wrong’ – in eyes of others (society, individuals etc). And yet risking all those judgements I wish to share my two bits – however it may sound to everyone. From the time we grow up, we are taught what to do and not to do – and every time we break that
HAPPI-NOMICS… Last week I had a discussion with my forum group about Happiness and I tried hard to convince one elderly gentleman that happiness has absolutely no connection to job or money. He was shocked and found it hard to even start thinking about it!! His expression was as if I am telling him that we live on Mars! Yes, money and comfort if not there, bring unhappiness but they are not sources of happiness according to my understanding and self experience! (I know some people would say “Id rather be miserable in a Mercedes than on the footpath!” and
